Carrying the weight of your business on your shoulders

There is a simple truth that we don’t talk about enough as we grow.

And that is – the bigger your business grows, the heavier it is… the more responsibility you carry.

You are responsible for taking care of clients and team. Making sure everyone is happy.

You are responsible for the work – making sure everything gets done correctly and on time.

You are responsible for making enough money to pay for it all. Paying for team. Marketing. Systems. And hopefully paying yourself!

Let’s be real – it is a heavy burden to carry at times. Especially when you feel like you have to carry it all on your own.

I’m very much a ‘do it myself’ kind of gal. My default mode is to jump in, figure it out and make it happen.

This was a huge part of my success in the early years! When it was just me and my clients.

But when I hit the 6-figure mark it stopped working. It became too much.

Too much work to do.

Too many decisions to make.

Too much to keep track of.

What used to be my strength – rolling up my sleeves and taking care of things on my own – became my weakness.

And this is where my growth stalled. Where my income became stuck.

Because there simply wasn’t enough of me to go around anymore.

When I learned how to shift this – how to shift from doer to CEO – then everything opened up and things began to flow again.

My income doubled practically overnight. My team was rocking and getting stuff done without my having to constantly ask.

I got back to working sane hours – and no weekends! – doing the stuff I loved.

And I felt free – the weight I had been carrying around on my shoulders was gone.

I no longer felt like I had to do it all on my own.

THIS is the work we do together in my CEO Activator – the shift from doer to CEO.

When you are tired of hustling…

When we start our business it’s all about the hustle…

We hustle to get clients. Serve clients. Keep clients. It’s the hustle that brings in the money.

BUT there comes a point where the hustle starts to work against you. Where working harder and harder actually stifles the flow of your income.

The hustle stops working when your schedule is full. When you are so busy working with clients and juggling it all that you don’t have anything more to give…

… and yet, our old habits kick in and we try to push through. To dig deep. To hustle harder.

Only to find yourself overworked, exhausted and disillusioned with it all.

When you have nothing left to give – no more time or energy – the hustle will suck the life out of you. And your business.

If the hustle doesn’t work at a certain point then what does?

It’s the shift from doer to CEO.

From being the hub of the business that everything flows through…

From being the main (only?) person serving clients – where you feel like you can’t take a day off because there is no one else to do the work…

From working too many hours with no light at the end of the tunnel…

From making some money but not enough…

The shift from doer to CEO changes everything. And it’s a surprisingly simple shift to make.

I’ve got a new round of the CEO Activator coming up to help you make this shift… if you are in the “hustle isn’t working anymore” category and are ready for change reply to this email and I’ll share more details with you.

There is another way…


You should get paid the most for this…

“You should get paid the most for what comes easiest to you”

I was flabbergasted when I first heard this on a coaching call… because it wasn’t at all true for me in my business at the time.

I was getting paid to “get things done” and I was darn good at it. I was making a good living there as well. I had great clients and my business was full.

But I knew when I heard this that I was not getting paid for what came easiest to me!

At first I could barely wrap my mind around that concept.

“You mean I could get paid MORE for the things that are easier? Is that even an option?”

(I was raised to believe that hard work = success. Which meant that I had to work harder and harder as my business grew <— perhaps you can relate?)

So I sat with it a bit and I asked myself a few key questions:

* What comes easiest to me?* What would I do even if I wasn’t getting paid for it?* What am I doing for clients right now that they value and that I’m not getting “officially” paid for?

The answer became clear – strategy.

I am an amazing strategist. I can look at any situation with a client, help them see their options and guide them to a decision that is best for them and their vision.

I would do this for free all day long. And truthfully I was doing it for free already with my clients at the time, because I naturally brought it to the table in our work. My mind would always go straight to strategy – I couldn’t turn it off if I tried. 😉

It was one of the main reasons my clients hired me even though it wasn’t the main “thing” I was selling at the time.

Once I was able to own this I was able to start charging for it. And it changed the entire course of my business.

I’m curious…

What comes easiest to you?

And is it something that you currently charge for?

Hit reply and let me know – let’s open up the possibilities.


P.S. As you are ready to connect… here are a couple of ways I can help:

1. Join The Intersection Facebook Group
The Intersection is that sacred space where business and spirit meet. Where our purpose – our calling – comes together with our livelihood. This group is open to any business owner who is interested in exploring this space together.
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2. The CEO Activator
I’m starting a small group for mission-driven coaches and service providers stuck at low 6-figures who want to break through to $40K+ months, without having to create complicated funnels, expensive Facebook Ads or fancy launches. Do you want to join us?


I was feeling something new bubbling in me this week and I wasn’t quite sure what it was.

Then it clicked for me Wednesday morning… it’s resilience.

I’m feeling like we are coming out of the hype and initial chaos of these first few weeks of change. Even though things are still challenging and there is still so much unknown around us… there is a strange sort of settling that is happening.

Not a ‘new normal’ per se – we are miles away from creating that yet!

But a beautiful limbo of sorts… a sacred place where we can be OK in the midst of the unknown.

Not knowing how long this will go on.
Not knowing how it will affect us down the road.
Not knowing when we can get back to the simple things we took for granted (I would love a haircut right now!)

We are swimming in the unknown for an extended period of time. A time without a due date attached.

What does this call out in us?


According to the dictionary resilience is:

1) the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness
2) the ability of a substance or object to spring back into shape; elasticity

For me resilience right now feels like this beautiful space between:

Many things suck
And that’s OK. I’m OK. We are OK.

This space where we acknowledge that it’s hard – maybe harder than we expected it to be – and that we can handle it.

This space where handling it doesn’t have to mean pushing, pulling or running. Where we can just show up, be present and be messy… and that’s enough.

And where we can even be happy. I’ve honestly laughed more in the past 4 weeks than I have for probably the whole year before then. Full on tears streaming down my cheeks belly laughter (my kids think I’m a nut 😉

Amazing how our trials reveal how strong we really are. Inside and out.

I’m curious. What does resilience look like for you? And how are you cultivating your resilience in the midst of it all?


PS – If you are interested in some deeper conversations that combine both a spiritual and a business perspective come join us in my Intersection Facebook group. We may not have answers yet but I do know that together we get to create this new world.

This has taken on new meaning for me

Our thoughts create our reality.

This isn’t a new concept for me… I’ve known this for many years but am living it now in an entirely different way.

One of the things I started doing early on in this pandemic was limiting the amount of news and theories I’ve allowed into my space. Into my mind. My psyche. I do a once daily check-in to receive the latest news provincially and federally. So I am aware of what is happening within the communities closest to home.

Outside of that I am RIDICULOUSLY selective with what I am allowing in, because I know how important my mental health is at this time. And I know it’s my #1 job to protect it.

Yes, we are fighting a virus. And yes, there are many theories as to why this happened and where it came from. There are endless articles and conversations online around all of this, and it’s SOOO easy to get caught up in them. To go down the rabbit hole of trying to figure out why all of this is happening. And what caused it.

I have a zero tolerance for any of this right now. I’ve unfollowed and “30 day paused” more people on Facebook this past few weeks than ever before.

Because I’m more concerned about fighting the “fear virus” than I am about the corona virus.

Don’t get me wrong – I know the corona virus is real and I take that very seriously. We are following all precautions to keep ourselves and others as safe as possible and to prevent the spread.

But most people I am talking to right now are not suffering from the virus itself. They are suffering from all the FEAR that comes up around the virus. Fear about the future. Fear about what this means for humanity. Fear about the world never going back to normal.

There are two types of fear that we experience in times like these:
⁃ healthy fear that keeps us aware and safe
⁃ unhealthy fear that invades our psyche and can take us down a dark path

Our Premier here in Alberta addressed our province on Tuesday and laid out some pretty grim projections of what could happen. The worst case scenario was over a million infections and 32,000 deaths in a population of 4.4 million.

That’s pretty fucking scary to think about. And as I said to my mom, I’m glad they shared those numbers. I’m glad they are scaring people a bit because then hopefully we will continue to take it seriously and stay home. To keep doing what we’ve been doing.

That’s a healthy kind of fear imo. It’s a fear that leads to us making smart choices. A fear that will hopefully help flatten the curve and shorten the duration of this for us all.

I was talking with a friend this weekend who brought up some of the “conspiracy theory” stuff that’s out there and I wouldn’t even engage in that discussion. As I said to her “I can’t let my mind go there right now because I know what it will do to me”.

My monkey brain would go off in all directions of “what if?!” Or “omg, is that really true?!”

Then I would get worried, which starts to show up in my grumpy mood and leads to me blowing up at my kids for dirty dishes in the sink. Which leads to sleepless nights where I can’t turn off my brain. Which means I’m exhausted in the morning and unmotivated to do anything constructive. Which makes me feel guilty and useless. Which leads to more worry… and so on and so on.

It’s a well worn path that I’ve been down many times before in my life. And it’s a path that has real consequences for us in these heightened times.

When we are isolated at home – not able to do what we would normally be doing. Not able to do what we want to do!
When we have nothing but time on our hands and aren’t sure what to do with it.
When the entire world has shut down and we don’t know what that means for us in the long run.

If our thoughts create our reality, what kind of reality are you creating right now?

Are you marinating in all of the things that could go wrong? All of the things that feel so out of our control in the moment?

Or are you keeping as much of the “gunk” out as possible to keep your thoughts clean and clear? Are you limiting the intake of ‘junk food’ coming into your brain?
What I do know is this:

Whatever we choose to let in right now is what will color our thinking. Which in turn will affect our emotional and mental health.
Whatever we choose to let in right now will affect the future we imagine for ourselves and our families. That we get to create together in the coming months and years.

Be selective. Be purposeful. <– this we can control


PS – If you are interested in some deeper conversations that combine both a spiritual and a business perspective come join us in my Intersection Facebook group. We may not have answers yet but I do know that together we get to create this new world.

Be gentle with yourself

You do NOT need to do it all right now.
Change the world.
Learn a new skill.
Pivot. Grow. Shift.

I’ve talked with a lot of people this past week who are feeling the pressure…

“Things are fine for me right now but I feel like I should be doing more”

“I keep seeing everyone talk about how NOW is the time to make big moves and if I don’t I’m going to be left behind…”

“I feel like I should be offering something else – something new – but I don’t even have time right now to think about it”


We are living in a world crisis right now – a frigging pandemic – and what is most important in this moment is that we take care of ourselves. Our families.

That we focus on our survival and creating our new normal.

That we focus on having ENOUGH before we focus on having MORE. Not just enough money but enough energy. Enough sleep. Enough love. Enough connection. Enough laughter.

Is there a world of opportunity out there right now? Yes. And there will still be a world of opportunity out there when this is all done too.

Could you be missing out on something right now? Yes. But what is the cost to your health – mental and physical – if you dive headfirst into it right now while juggling everything else? And are you willing to pay that price in this moment?

And by all means yes – if you have lost your income and need to hustle right now to make ends meet, then jump into that with both feet. There are SO many amazing resources available right now to support you there.

Resources from ridiculously smart and generous people who are brilliant at leading people through crisis. Everything from creating new revenue streams to navigating the various support options available from our governments. If you are in financial crisis plug in and get the help you need. (If you are looking for some resources here let me know and I’ll point you to some amazing people.)

But this isn’t the case for everyone. Some of us are fine. As much as I’m hearing about people losing income, I’m hearing just as much about people who’s businesses are doing fine… things are continuing as normal and in some cases even getting busier without doing anything different. This is especially true in our blessed online world.

If you are OK right now it’s fine to just be OK… to let go of any expectations. To simply BE with life as it is.

To spend more time with your kids. To take a nap. To get outside and get some fresh air. To pause for the moment and just live your life. And if finances allow it then its even fine to take a break from your business if you so choose (gasp!)

This too shall pass. We don’t know yet what is to come but we are living in the here and now.

Be gentle with yourself. Be present. Find as much joy as you can in each moment. Allow yourself to rest.

I’m right here with you. We are in this together. <3


PS – If you are interested in some deeper conversations that combine both a spiritual and a business perspective come join us in my Intersection Facebook group. We may not have answers yet but I do know that together we get to create this new world.