I’m about to head into day 2 of our annual OBM Live conference – exclusive to members of our Certified OBM community.
Our theme this year is the inner game – and how if we don’t take care of our inner game then we will struggle to see results in our outer game.
We are having some amazing discussions around burnout and boundaries. Leading through chaos. Impostor syndrome and dealing with the worry, doubt & fear that comes up for all of us.
During one of our sessions yesterday the topic of ‘more more more’ came up, and how easy it is to fall into the trap of always wanting more.
More clients. More money.
Getting more done. And in less time (ooof).
And feeling the CONSTANT pressure of all of this.
There is a very real price to this that we don’t talk about often. Things like:
- Hitting burnout because we are over working ourselves (or even overthinking, which can be equally as exhausting!)
- Not being able to enjoy the success we do create, because we are instantly looking to the next goal
- Feeling shame because we aren’t where we think we should be.
Keeping it real – this is a trap I’ve fallen into in my own business… and I’ve paid the price.
I remember when I first hit 6-figures in my business. It was a goal that I had for years, and I would dream about how amazing life would be. And when I hit 6-figures in my business I barely even noticed it, because I was so focused on “OK, now I have to hit 7-figures!!”
I didn’t take a moment to celebrate it or really let it in. I just kept on going… kept on working.
This is something I continue to struggle with – every goal that I reach. Every milestone that I pass. There is a part of me that feels like it’s “not enough”.
What if – instead of trying to constantly get more – we aimed for ENOUGH?
Enough to live the lifestyle we want. And I’m not just talking about money here (although that is certainly part of it) – I’m talking about energy as well. The bigger the business the more it’s going to require of us, even when we have amazing support around us. How hard do you really want to work? How much time do you have available for work when you consider the life you want to live now? (Not the life that you think you’ll get to live in the future once you ‘get there’.)
It’s hard to resist the lure of more, more, more! Everything around us is telling us we should want more. Our own internal drive is telling us the same.
AND you ultimately get to decide.
What is enough? Right here. Right now.
What if we could be happy with enough? What if we could linger there and truly receive and enjoy it? Hang out there for a while… maybe even years?
Not gonna lie – this is something I have yet to master for myself. I’m aware of it and I’m working on it as well, but there is a lot to untangle around the ‘more more more!’ habit.
And yes, there are times when we may truly want more. There are seasons when we have more to give. More energy. More time. In which case go for it! Bring it on.
But we also need rest. We need to linger. We need to simply be and enjoy.
Imagine if we gave ourselves permission to simply live in enough. How different would life be?