In my last article we talked about how fear isn’t something to fear (haha). Rather, its a normal part of the growth process and is often a strong indicator that we are on the right track.
When we befriend our fear – instead of resist it – then our fear can actually become an ally.
The first step to befriending fear is to get to know it. To sit down and have an imaginary coffee date with our fear.
Here’s one of my favorite journaling exercises to work with fear.
First, write down a goal that you want to achieve that isn’t moving forward. A goal that feels stuck.
Ask yourself the following questions.
- What would be at risk if I were to really go after this goal? (relationships, sense of self, habits, income, security)
Risk is a natural part of the growth process and often acts as a trigger to bring up fear.
- What are some fears that are active for me around this goal?
A few examples are fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of being seen/visible, fear of not being liked.
- Where else does this fear show up in my life? What behaviors does this fear cause me to take? (or not take?)
Get real with yourself about how this fear impacts your behavior.
- What aspect of my personal power is this fear calling out in me? (courage, authenticity, setting clear boundaries)
Our fears will reflect the very things that we are being called to own in ourselves.
A funny thing happens when we dig deeper and get to know our fear. It loses it’s power over us.
It shifts from being ‘the enemy’ to a trusted guide whose company we may not always enjoy, but who we know is here to serve a purpose.
I’m curious, what journaling questions or exercises do you like to do around fear? Hit reply and let me know.